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MLisa's avatar

I got roasted on an online forum once for suggesting that grant money be spent on developing community gardens and then teaching those that participate in the farming how to preserve the food...canning, freezing, dehydrating. I also suggested that we teach people to sew/tailor so that they could thrift shop clothes and then re-purpose them. I was called a racist and that I was suggesting that black people be turned back into slaves because "farming" for black people was slavery. I had to back out of that forum for good! I grew up low low middle class and I was NEVER hungry or un-clothed, but we always had some vegetables growing in the back yard and a sewing machine was always ready to be used. I would NEVER ask other people to do something that I wouldn't do myself!

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Ivana's avatar

That’s brutal—and sadly predictable. Real solutions like self-reliance, skills-building, and community effort get twisted into some kind of cultural attack instead of being seen as empowerment. Growing your own food, learning to sew—these aren’t relics of the past, they’re tools for independence. The resistance to practical hard work tells you everything about how deep the victimhood narrative runs. It’s easier for some to stay angry than to roll up their sleeves. Thanks for sharing your story—those values of personal responsibility are timeless.

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MLisa's avatar

The people with the grant money were trying to solve a problem in the city....food deserts. It wasn't like I was suggesting that they have to raise/feed and then slaughter cows and pigs! It was simply a suggestion to use vacant areas in the city to grow fresh vegetables and then how to use them. I added the sewing into it because it is an activity that many girls would like to try, but the school systems have gotten rid of Home Economics classes and the sewing rooms/machines. It's such a shame that helping people be self reliant is seen as racist and shackling black people into slavery. It deters decent people from volunteering their time/energy.

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Kate's avatar

I can relate to your comment. I too grew up in a violent, dysfunctional home. All of us kids saw education as a way to “climb out of the shithole”. We all went to college and had good careers and have never taken welfare or even thought about it. We knew we could do better and we did.

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Ivana's avatar

Thank you for sharing that. Stories like yours prove what so many refuse to see—no matter where you start, determination and belief in yourself can break the cycle. Education is powerful, but it’s the mindset behind it that changes everything. You didn’t just climb out—you refused to stay down. That’s the kind of grit this country needs more of. Keep shining that light.

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Andy Bacon's avatar

Wonderful writing once again. But it is not just the welfare state, it is the whole “progressive” idea. I love how these “progressive” women are crying because there are no good men after spending years trying to kill the male psyche. I have news for the idiots, there are lots of good men but they are running wire, laying pipe and building things-they aren’t sitting around eating avocado toast with their man buns!! I have three grandsons and they are going to be men because we expect them to be.

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Ivana's avatar

You’ve hit the core. This isn’t just about welfare—it’s the entire narrative that’s been flipped upside down. When you spend years undermining what it means to be a man, don’t be shocked when strong men step away from a culture that no longer values them. Your grandsons will grow up with purpose because someone believes in their strength—and that belief makes all the difference. That’s the kind of legacy we need more of.

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Daniel Krudop's avatar

One of the greatest Father’s Day gift I ever received was from my son. It was a note, “Happy Father’s Day to the man who taught me what it means to be not only a real man, but a father. Love you, and can’t thank you enough for the way you raised me!” I tear up every time I think about that.

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Ivana's avatar

That’s powerful. Real fatherhood—teaching strength, responsibility, and love—is the kind of legacy no welfare check can buy. Moments like that remind us what’s worth fighting for: not just survival, but dignity passed down through generations. Your son’s note is proof that the fight to restore family isn’t just political—it’s deeply personal. Thanks for sharing that.

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Harry's avatar

I read once that in NYC, to beat what a single mother on welfare gets in benefits, including food stamps and housing, you’d have to make $60,000 a year.

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Ivana's avatar

That figure nails it. The system isn’t just about helping—it’s about outpacing work with handouts, making dependence more “profitable” than independence. No wonder the incentive to break free feels like walking uphill with a boulder strapped to your back. It’s designed that way—comfort on a leash beats hard work every time for too many.

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RandomDuckess's avatar

So many truths! I wanted to highlight every other sentence.

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Ivana's avatar

Glad it hit home. Sometimes the hardest truths are the ones we need to hear most—even if they sting. Keep highlighting, questioning, and pushing back. That’s how real change starts. Thanks for reading with eyes wide open.

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Doc Ellis 124's avatar

@Ivana

The description of the welfare system in this essay also applies to those systems that I see promoted on a daily basis:

a pediatric-cancer-treating hospital

a broken-kids treating program

a save disadvantaged-kids program

a save-the-critter-of-the-day program

a help-disabled-veterans program

with teary-eyed spokesmodels and zero resolutions of the problems that the systems supposedly are set up to address. The promotions include a request to viewers to donate "19 dollars/month, 63 cents/day" to provide funding for these systems in exchange for a trinket or two.

These systems rely on victims to continue, just as welfare programs rely on recipients to continue.

Thank you for this essay.

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Ivana's avatar

You nailed it—and thank you for seeing through it.

So much of today’s “compassion industry” is just pain turned into profit. Sad music, a soft voice, a tear, and suddenly you’re emotionally blackmailed into keeping the machine alive. These aren’t solutions—they’re subscriptions to suffering.

They don’t want healing. They want permanent victims—because victims pay, and victims don’t ask questions.

Glad this essay resonated. We need more people who refuse to clap for the performance

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Jerry Shotkoski's avatar

NYC just voted for more of the same.... Had a half sister that enjoyed being caught in the welfare trap.... I was 16 in 1970, working my ass off rolling out sod in the newly subsidized apartment complex she lived in. Thinkin to myself WTF is goin on here? Lots of nice cars, well dressed people, with no jobs.... I saw through all the bullshit at that time... I still thank God for keeping me awake....

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Stephen Hicks's avatar

That’s what I was thinking. And I’ve been thinking about this for a decade. I thought about it after I asked desperate questions: what is the motivation for forcing people into a welfare system they do not need? In the one hand, you have people who actually need a boost. Nothing wrong with that. Give them a taste of what they could have if they just make a little more effort. But what if you already provide for yourself and others? They must’ve asked: how can we get people who don’t need this system to feel like they need it? They found a way.

Genetically, we are predisposed to survival. Our instinct with our children are to protect, preserve and nurture. But there are some raw drives that exists for this purpose: Fears. Fight or flight. These are powerful, raw and purposeful human/animalistic drives that perpetuate the species. If you can tap into those fears, you can stoke the fires of our survival instincts.

This is where the art of dividing families comes in. If you can provoke that fear within the family unit, you can get people hooked on your system. Remember, men are the problem. They are aggressive, angry. If you can redefine their roles as protector into the role of “the problem”, you can break up the family. You can then offer your form of “protection” in the guise of family court, welfare “child-support”, and TANF funding. You can offer the carrot of “control” via court order custody arrangements that basically make one parent a “valid”, “primary custodian” while making the other a secondary visitor who is a forced ATM machine.

This isn’t for the 10% who need a boost. They’ll always claim it’s for those horror stories where the man went on a brutal alcoholic drug induced rampage bearing his wife within an inch of her life. They cherry pick those stories for the legislative committees. No, the rest of us are forced into that stigma, and the poor victimized females bought it hook line and sinker.

And don’t get ME started on the weak men. You thought your dream of mommas womb was going to save you? No, you forgot what it truly means to be a man because once you found your holy grail, you thought it was over. You though you didn’t have to fight for it anymore. How undisciplined. How pathetic.

The breakdown of the family unit is the fall of nations. And we have been weakened by “education”and reliance on government as our “daddy”. Welfare is like the creepy guy in the van who offers you candy, and you think he’s innocent and helpful. Yet you just got absconded into his lair. It’s Stockholm syndrome on steroids with a side of Munchausen by proxy.

We’ve bought it hook line and sinker. We wore the mask to virtue signal our compliance, while demonstrating to our children how to not think for ourself and just go along with the program.

This is why our country is weakening. We better shape up quick, the vultures are circling.

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Ivana's avatar

Yes. You said what most are too afraid to say—and you said it with clarity and guts.

This isn’t just policy failure. It’s engineered dependency layered with emotional blackmail and weaponized fear. They don’t just want control over your bank account—they want control over your identity, your family, your instinct to protect and provide.

And you're right—the system isn't designed for the 10% who need a leg up. It's designed to absorb the 90% who don’t, by feeding on fear, isolation, and a slow erosion of meaning. Reframe masculinity, erode motherhood, punish independence, and call it "equity." It’s not just sinister—it’s strategic.

Thank you for thinking, speaking, and standing. These conversations are how we reverse the damage. Keep going—we need more warriors like you awake and unafraid.

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Stephen Hicks's avatar

Well, truly, thank you for having the clarity of mind to speak so well on these subjects. You’re doing a great job I hope you get more exposure for it. I’m fighting my own fight in federal court over these issues as we speak. I’m in the ninth circuit. I don’t know if it will make a difference but I can’t just sit back and not do anything. Cheers to you.

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Notsothoreau's avatar

I used to know quite a few welfare moms. I was impressed with how they stretched food stamps to cover holidays, which are mainly at the end of the month. The ones with drive stayed on welfare till the kids were in school, then started looking for work. One friend, who had her first kid at fifteen wound up pulling green chainat a lumber mill. A woman once asked why she did that. She looked at her like she was nuts and said that she needed the job.

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Ivana's avatar

That’s exactly it—there’s a real grit in some who use the system as a stepping stone, not a cradle. The ones with drive don’t get stuck; they use welfare as a temporary tool, not a permanent identity. But the system’s designed to trap the rest, blurring the line between support and surrender. Stories like your friend’s remind us what real responsibility looks like—and why that kind of mindset scares the gatekeepers.

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Chana Goanna's avatar

Ivana, this is a masterpiece. Thank you.

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Ken's avatar

You aren't Ivana, and that's not your photo. You are too experienced for that.

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Melinda Allen's avatar

When my husband and I were expecting our son- decades ago- we got into an episode of situational poverty and would up on benefits for healthcare during the pregnancy & first year or so afterwards. We were *innundated* with folks in the system pushing more programs on us. I fought back hard trying to explain that it was the ultrasounds and the anesthesia that we couldn’t afford; we were good to buy our own milk. And when we were back on our feet & I tried to get off the *free* healthcare, I started getting refunds for bills that *I* had paid.

Fast-forward 20 years, and I’m in a discussion on FB explaining how even when I was broke, I didn’t need the next-door neighbor (because that’s really who’s funding government largess) to buy our milk for us, I got rant rant from a ‘concerned and compassionate’ liberal activist trying ‘educate me’ on the importance of early childhood nutrition. He said I should have been *reported to the authorities and had my son removed from my custody* 😱 for the sin of daring to feed him from our own resources instead of getting WIC vouchers. Behold, the *compassion* of the liberal activist class.

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izzypod's avatar

This.

It's always the money.

"Poverty is a full-blown industry. A bloated, bureaucratic ecosystem crawling with nonprofits, activists, social workers, grant writers, “community organizers,” and government departments so layered in red tape, you could mummify the truth in it."

And awash with money. Nor for them, but mainly the deepstate blob.

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The Scuttlebutt's avatar

All of this!, Further, they (the folks who came up with this system as described) didn't understand or didn't believe that they were seeding their own destruction, as well as that of the rest of our nation, and arguably the free world.

Q: What sort of soldier does a slave make?

A: A damn poor one. The only time it's ever been really tried is the Mamelukes, the shock troops of the Ottoman Empire. They did OK against other Muslim nations, because the Muslim culture is a "raider" culture, not a soldier or warrior culture. Once they ran into people from Soldier and Warrior cultures, they got their asses handed to them.

A slave soldier can not fight worth a damn. Further a slave soldier will never become a soldier unless conscripted. We as a nation will not support conscription except in times of a war of annihilation. In modern warfare, by the time you know you're in a war of annihilation, it's too late to turn conscripts into anything but cannon fodder. It takes a couple years to make a real soldier out of a free man, (that or a winnowing process that leaves you with a 30% or greater casualty rate. Also unsupportable in our nation.)

Our modern system that you describe thought using the military to 'get rid of' the free men, real MEN (and yes this includes real women) by getting them to join the service, and hoping enough of them died in wars that were meaningless to us, to get rid of the goats and keep just the sheep.

Vietnam (hey, at least we had a treaty that obligated us to go in there.) the Drug wars of Central America, Lebanon (twice) Bosnia, Iraq, Afghanistan, Panama, Granada (at least there we had the justification of 1)Americans were involved and needed rescue, and 2) we were killing commies, which is always justifiable.) and a thousand nameless little conflicts that live underneath "Black Cloths" (In certain places, putting a Black Cloth over something on your desk means "DO NOT LIFT THIS CLOTH!" what is underneath, you are not cleared for, even if you're my boss!)

The problem is twofold. 1) we just keep growing real men, in spite of their best eugenic attempts, just not enough of them. They become a low order, persistent infection in the body politic, not bad enough to kill, but bad enough that nothing works as you planned.

and 2) This plan only is good as long as we don't suddenly develop an enemy that is actually capable of putting us in check, in threatening us with a war of annihilation. Unfortunately for everyone, we've developed that enemy. The People's Republic of China. And suddenly we need real soldiers, and a lot of them.

They're thin on the ground.

The other nations that run this sort of slavery scam didn't come from a place of freedom, so their nations don't kick at 30% or 50% casualties, when fighting such a war. Looking at you here Russia, PRC, North Korea, the entire Muslim world... We did. Conscription and generation kill is enough that the beast might awaken, so they're scared shitless of chancing it. The alternative though, well that scares them shitless too.

Poor sad them. Unfortunately, poor sad us too.

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Nadege's avatar

Didn’t Bill Clinton end the “welfare queen”? Are folks still receiving lifetime benefits?

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David Foster's avatar

From the Social Security website at www.ssa.gov - "The maximum monthly SSI* payment for 2025 is $967 for an individual and $1,450 for a couple." I worked for SSA until retiring five years ago, and worked in a variety of "human services" positions before and since. I always knew my bread was buttered by the system, but also wondered how it seemed to be a never ending-always growing bureaucracy that was just doling out money and benefits while doing absolutely nothing to solve problems. Look at the number of Social Work degrees handed out by nearly every college and university each year - those grads have to find places to work, connecting more and more people to money and benefits. (*SSI is the Social Security program for people who haven't worked much or at all, theoretically because they are "disabled." And how do they "prove" they are disabled? Psychologists/Counselors write the words "Anxiety, Depression, and Panic Attacks." on a piece of paper and the applicant takes it to an SSA office. And just the same with Social Workers, think of how many Psychology degrees are handed out year after year. Those grads need people to counsel, and on and on....)

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